tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post2027700613855609412..comments2024-03-28T07:19:23.463+00:00Comments on Something Crunchy Mummy: Empty ThreatsSomething Crunchy Mummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07264833782161097483noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-80930354428590346162016-06-16T19:33:07.797+01:002016-06-16T19:33:07.797+01:00I do give in sometimes but I find myself saying no...I do give in sometimes but I find myself saying no means no no matter how many times you ask or how many different ways you ask. It's so tiring. Thanks for linking to #picknmix Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05778732158123863345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-13910038756601319832016-06-16T13:47:24.252+01:002016-06-16T13:47:24.252+01:00I can be the queen of empty threats. Like you, whe...I can be the queen of empty threats. Like you, when I threaten to take something away or cancel a day, it's actually something that benefits me too, so I wouldn't even dare follow through. Most of the time I try to stand firm but it's so easy to give in isn't it. Kids are sneaky and when they know they can run rings around us, they will! I often begrudge how much our children rule our lives, I have to ask them before I can go for a wee. It's crazy how someone so tiny has so much power! We must get our power back lol xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07931916903764879883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-34923312065001240502016-06-14T11:59:50.857+01:002016-06-14T11:59:50.857+01:00Meaning what I say has been I think my best parent...Meaning what I say has been I think my best parenting strategy since they were small, I sometimes regret what I threaten them with for misbehaving.... my eldest has had salad cream over his head before erm.... but I always mean what I say and I really do think that, this is what works the best for our family as the children always know where they stand. <br /><br />Now that I have a tween who has a hormonal second personality going on.... I may need to find a new tactic as well, or spend a lot more time hiding from him....<br /><br />Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix lovely<br /><br />Stevie xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12770079191573491669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-61758798063083798482016-06-13T22:37:31.672+01:002016-06-13T22:37:31.672+01:00Stick to it you are doing the right thing.Stick to it you are doing the right thing.Sunshine and Elephantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12270262743023988573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-7446282270354049462016-06-12T00:15:54.627+01:002016-06-12T00:15:54.627+01:00I was once so angry with my son that in the heat o...I was once so angry with my son that in the heat of the moment I threatened that he would lose iPad rights for the rest of his life. Talk about shooting myself in the foot! My husband immediately said 'What on earth are you doing?!!!!!' I'm dreadful at this. #Justanotherlinky<br /><br />Cheers, Maddie (@TheIndeparent @maddiesinclair)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02275573788675824877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-4049481621595318952016-06-11T22:02:19.138+01:002016-06-11T22:02:19.138+01:00I went on a parenting course a few months ago and ...I went on a parenting course a few months ago and an autism workshop last week (for my son) and both said the same thing - make your threats something that are realistic and can and will actually follow through with x #justanotherlinkyEmma Plus Threehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903472977796551813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-56423610500950188272016-06-11T21:31:48.939+01:002016-06-11T21:31:48.939+01:00Arghhh I really try and sometimes I follow through...Arghhh I really try and sometimes I follow through with the threats but it is hard. I often confiscate toys though which works and we do use the naughty step or time out which works, hate doing it though and it doesn't happen too often. Popping over from the #binkylinky Helen - Blogging Beautifullyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662089909399970493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-68522218745522268682016-06-11T21:07:33.711+01:002016-06-11T21:07:33.711+01:00Excellent post I'm useless at taking things of...Excellent post I'm useless at taking things off the girls so you are not alone thanks for linking to the Binkylinky Nigelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05381709704931990827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-66993053578174033312016-06-11T18:30:24.268+01:002016-06-11T18:30:24.268+01:00Great post - I use empty threats all the time, it ...Great post - I use empty threats all the time, it lasts 2 seconds before they clock. #justanotherlinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15569716127896310863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-55801922534174769412016-06-11T17:50:43.343+01:002016-06-11T17:50:43.343+01:00Sometimes I use empty threats - mainly taking a to...Sometimes I use empty threats - mainly taking a toy away or saying we won't got somewhere. I also find ignoring them works! Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinkyEmily Twin Mummy and Daddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187293694159590891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-39872678696249410862016-06-11T13:07:33.594+01:002016-06-11T13:07:33.594+01:00I feel like I don't have the time to go throug...I feel like I don't have the time to go through with the threats.. I've got something else to do, go or monitor. It's difficult sometimes! #justanotherlinkyAnn Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-14928780226727776102016-06-11T13:05:52.624+01:002016-06-11T13:05:52.624+01:00Ha I soon learnt not to make threats that I wouldn...Ha I soon learnt not to make threats that I wouldn't follow through on! Well done on sticking to your guns re the scooter incident, he'll definitely remember that. Of course they are always going to scream and shout about it but after a while they soon start to pay attention to the threats and you'll reap the rewards. #justanotherlinky Mess and Merlothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12124689319991381687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-19735256092637026552016-06-11T12:24:31.608+01:002016-06-11T12:24:31.608+01:00I was full of empty threats and still am now somet...I was full of empty threats and still am now sometimes if I'm honest... I really need to be stronger because its only for their benefit.. If I really need to lay down the law though I just get the husband to say it, which is shit as they obviously respect his word more than mine lol #justanotherlinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16274499613835094708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-7373501679246564552016-06-11T12:21:23.098+01:002016-06-11T12:21:23.098+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16274499613835094708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-43061084439823162082016-06-11T12:07:05.977+01:002016-06-11T12:07:05.977+01:00My 3 YO is playing up at the moment, and it's ...My 3 YO is playing up at the moment, and it's exhausting. I am also guilty of Empty Threats. Holding thumbs she grows out of it soon! #justanotherlinkyJacquihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01065516426687529553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-46020864601567799352016-06-11T10:52:52.493+01:002016-06-11T10:52:52.493+01:00It's so hard isn't it, when we want to set...It's so hard isn't it, when we want to set limits, but love our kids so much and can't bear to see them upset! I always trust my parenting instincts, and if something doesn't feel right, then I don't do it, no matter which parenting expert or book recommended it. I wouldn't worry at all about not following through. Go with your heart! Scientists learn more about how the brain works, there's plenty of evidence to prove that punishments and consequences are a quick fix that works in the moment but actually cause more behaviour problems in the long run. <br />Kids definitely do need limits, but there are ways to do it that don't involve threats. There are some great positive parenting websites out there with more effective ways of parenting that go with your heart, google Hand in Hand parenting, Aha Parenting, Janet Lansbury, Positive Parenting Connection. Good luck with finding what works for you. #justanotherlinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400245949759286143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-50378333654975472122016-06-11T10:39:15.997+01:002016-06-11T10:39:15.997+01:00Oh the tantrums of following through a threat I kn...Oh the tantrums of following through a threat I know them well and yes being strong is so hard but it does work. As my two know I mean it. I now use till 5 and that's working at the moment 😱 #justanotherlinky Mud, Cakes and Winehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18120352950387422825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-26125256168958057082016-06-11T09:36:50.943+01:002016-06-11T09:36:50.943+01:00It is such a tricky one but I also try and stick t...It is such a tricky one but I also try and stick to my guns with punishments. I worry it'll just confuse them if I make empty threats. #justanotherlinkyhelloarchie.bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06903944894795580488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-55309712510812355102016-06-11T09:27:56.683+01:002016-06-11T09:27:56.683+01:00I always try and follow through on threats so try ...I always try and follow through on threats so try and make sure it's realistic like no TV or no pudding. I can't stand it when parents threaten something that's not realistic like not going on holiday when the cases are all packed! That said it is easy to cave sometimes! #justanotherlinky Fran Back With A Bumphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15240919032010911661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-26523915686345214342016-06-11T09:27:53.073+01:002016-06-11T09:27:53.073+01:00I always try and follow through on threats so try ...I always try and follow through on threats so try and make sure it's realistic like no TV or no pudding. I can't stand it when parents threaten something that's not realistic like not going on holiday when the cases are all packed! That said it is easy to cave sometimes! #justanotherlinky Fran Back With A Bumphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15240919032010911661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-82087573975769689892016-06-11T09:17:55.336+01:002016-06-11T09:17:55.336+01:00I'm so awful at not following through on threa...I'm so awful at not following through on threats, and I also do the play date thing where I threaten to pull the plug on something that I want to do! I'm trying to be better as empty threats set an inconsistent example, but it is hard. Great post. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09699068281877600333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-50005565735384930892016-06-11T09:01:34.297+01:002016-06-11T09:01:34.297+01:00If you ever figure this one out please let me know...If you ever figure this one out please let me know! I find it incredibly difficult to stick to my false threats too. I take one look at her little tear stained face and I know I've lost, aha. I'm sure you'll figure out something soon. (: x<br />#justanotherlinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09778233706606465006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-59952768453394129652016-06-10T18:16:02.571+01:002016-06-10T18:16:02.571+01:00Well done for standing your ground with the scoote...Well done for standing your ground with the scooter. I am awful at making empty threats, you just feel that actually carrying it through will make your life so much more difficult, it's the wrong way to look at it I suppose because they do have to learn! At least now you have shown you will carry it through the threat of doing it should be enough next time! xx #PicknmixBethan ThomasWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206712697480543981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-72722063662343564662016-06-10T16:57:17.835+01:002016-06-10T16:57:17.835+01:00Great post Hun..I really try to follow through as ...Great post Hun..I really try to follow through as it does work. So if my girly messing with food and not eating we say no pudding and take her plate away. She goes mad but calms and always eats after so gets her yog. Sometimes the threat is enough! Xx #binkylinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01095147960591273846noreply@blogger.com