tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post5117656866624300273..comments2024-03-28T07:19:23.463+00:00Comments on Something Crunchy Mummy: A Tough SubjectSomething Crunchy Mummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07264833782161097483noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-71954332918173125202016-04-30T17:13:39.810+01:002016-04-30T17:13:39.810+01:00It's such a tricky subject to approach, but I ...It's such a tricky subject to approach, but I think one that must be addressed and not sugar coated. <br />My son is nearly 3, but we have always explained death to him from a young age - it started with the fish from the fish tank, as he got older he's now known of two of my mum's pet sheep that have died. The one she took him to see dead, and explained it to him. <br />How much he can really comprehend about it, I'm unsure, but I think the younger it's introduced, the easier it is to approach when a family member does die xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01603221706933945488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-69326422131666354012016-04-30T17:13:34.513+01:002016-04-30T17:13:34.513+01:00It's such a tricky subject to approach, but I ...It's such a tricky subject to approach, but I think one that must be addressed and not sugar coated. <br />My son is nearly 3, but we have always explained death to him from a young age - it started with the fish from the fish tank, as he got older he's now known of two of my mum's pet sheep that have died. The one she took him to see dead, and explained it to him. <br />How much he can really comprehend about it, I'm unsure, but I think the younger it's introduced, the easier it is to approach when a family member does die xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01603221706933945488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-82666019780441594492016-04-22T23:07:19.519+01:002016-04-22T23:07:19.519+01:00Oh hun I cam imagine this is a very difficult subj...Oh hun I cam imagine this is a very difficult subject. He's very smart to be aware already of things like that but I know what you mean, there's no easy way to explain death. I would personally use a mixture of both straight talking and cotton wool wrapping. At such a young age it's hard to want them to know to much about such a sore subject, and difficult to know whether they fully understand x ps thank you for hosting as always xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07931916903764879883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-146548514808712052016-04-22T19:02:40.178+01:002016-04-22T19:02:40.178+01:00Such a difficult conversation :( Luckily I haven&#...Such a difficult conversation :( Luckily I haven't had that conversation with my children YET! Life-As-Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05077958857084535843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-27561255526954913642016-04-19T13:57:56.199+01:002016-04-19T13:57:56.199+01:00It's a tough subject and one I don't like ...It's a tough subject and one I don't like myself.I always try and give an honest answer with as much detail as is needed depending on the age. I had a Grampie too. Thanks for linking to #PickNMixAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09852015687279630662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-92187490047092492782016-04-19T11:45:19.245+01:002016-04-19T11:45:19.245+01:00Awww it is tough especially as they become more aw...Awww it is tough especially as they become more aware of things like this but I feel it's good to be open and talk honestly. Thanks for linking up! #bestandworst Helen - Blogging Beautifullyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662089909399970493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-10432243324297459482016-04-19T06:26:03.320+01:002016-04-19T06:26:03.320+01:00It is so hard honey and I wish I could give you a ...It is so hard honey and I wish I could give you a wise answer, but what I know is every child and every situation is different, so as a parent I think we need to b guided by our hearts with this one. I believe in honesty that is age appropriate, but I believe that we know our children best and can make that judgement call. Just have faith in yourself. I also take on board my child's natural curiosity if they want to know they will ask, if they don't have an interest then don't force it. Hope that helps a little #mg Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-84115417923473012562016-04-18T22:28:30.054+01:002016-04-18T22:28:30.054+01:00I too have recently tried to think of how I wanted...I too have recently tried to think of how I wanted to explain this subject to my kids. They haven't had to experience it yet, thank goodness but I know the time will come. So sorry for your loss :( death is never easy for anyone regardless even if it happens like it's supposed to in the circle of life. Thank You for hostessing the wonderful #justsnotherlinky.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10589425644332617517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-41136024485335150112016-04-18T22:10:39.744+01:002016-04-18T22:10:39.744+01:00I think it is a tough one. My elder son is 3 and a...I think it is a tough one. My elder son is 3 and a bit obsessed with death - the topic of dinosaurs and Good Friday kind of collided, so he's had lots of questions about it, but I don't think he's really grasped the finality of death (do we ever?). I think the advice about being honest is good. #coolmumclubNaomi - The Organised Life Projecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10281780845595252161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-48775396607937377752016-04-18T18:31:28.849+01:002016-04-18T18:31:28.849+01:00A really interesting post and something I've b...A really interesting post and something I've been questioning for a while myself since my own grandad passed away a couple of months ago. Experts say these days that we should be more straightforward with kids about death and should avoid sugary phrases in favour of the simple "He died" but I do worry about scary the hell out of them! A tough subject indeed. #justanotherlinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09792572228453970730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-41645137765440366562016-04-18T16:39:00.786+01:002016-04-18T16:39:00.786+01:00We've been dealing with this lately and I'...We've been dealing with this lately and I've written a couple of posts about it. It's so hard to know what to do but in the end I've given BB a rose tinted glasses version... #justanotherlinkyCrummy Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06308412915692440528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-31313013427236172682016-04-18T11:28:40.805+01:002016-04-18T11:28:40.805+01:00It's hard isn't it? I've always had th...It's hard isn't it? I've always had the policy with my two of answering any questions they have honestly, obviously with a varying amount of detail according to how old they were. These days they will come to me and ask me what something is or means even if they can tell it's a bit rude or sensitive, so I think honesty and being open with them is a good thing in my experience. <br />Death is one of those uncomfortable subjects, but it's a lot about how we react as we talk to them that they pick up on I think. Honestly think you've been right to talk about it with and in front of them lovely is what this really long waffly comment is saying ;)<br /><br />Stevie xx #PicknMixStevie - A Cornish Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11182169869144330729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-42643045497400963862016-04-18T01:20:23.637+01:002016-04-18T01:20:23.637+01:00Interesting post. And a tough subject no doubt. I ...Interesting post. And a tough subject no doubt. I guess if the child is four or older, would be better to tell them the truth (in not so harsh a manner)? But it would also depend on the person in question, the circumstances, the situation etc etc. Tough one...<br />#justanotherlinky<br /><br />Nicole<br />http://talesfrommamaville.wordpress.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15236366533342754434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-55019097050561086212016-04-18T01:19:54.424+01:002016-04-18T01:19:54.424+01:00Interesting post. And a tough subject no doubt. I ...Interesting post. And a tough subject no doubt. I guess if the child is four or older, would be better to tell them the truth (in not so harsh a manner)? But it would also depend on the person in question, the circumstances, the situation etc etc. Tough one...<br />#justanotherlinky<br /><br />Nicole<br />http://talesfrommamaville.wordpress.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15236366533342754434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-71452014080356890232016-04-18T01:12:23.874+01:002016-04-18T01:12:23.874+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15236366533342754434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-71244575631283982572016-04-17T23:18:32.502+01:002016-04-17T23:18:32.502+01:00I had a similar conversation this evening. At som...I had a similar conversation this evening. At some point we'll have to explain about their brothers but for now we will start with the very likely inevitable fate of the bird with a broken wing we found in the garden. <br /><br />We will see if there's anything that can be done but know the liklihood is that the vet will have to put it down.<br /><br />We've decided we'll be as honest as we can be.<br /><br />#PickNMix Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-71634808924322105592016-04-17T21:19:09.417+01:002016-04-17T21:19:09.417+01:00It's so tricky isn't it. My son is 3.5 and...It's so tricky isn't it. My son is 3.5 and very very inquisitive, he asks tons of questions! He has asked about what being dead means and he knows that graveyards are where people are buried. But I'm not sure he really understands what it means! #justanotherlinkyEntertaining Elliot & Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03361231779235423707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-9622049695095111392016-04-17T20:22:36.253+01:002016-04-17T20:22:36.253+01:00It's such a difficult subject, because I'm...It's such a difficult subject, because I'm Christian I do find it easier to explain my faith comforts me so when I tell my children what I believe I hope I deliver comfort to them too. Perhaps because of my faith I find this area a bit easier than those who don't really think of death or have any beliefs in general so it's the end is the end which is fine I just find that so hard for kids before I hate to think that we die and that's that! XHannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08895363452546128497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-62381795148365652332016-04-17T10:57:59.495+01:002016-04-17T10:57:59.495+01:00This isn't an easy one at all. My dad passed a...This isn't an easy one at all. My dad passed away when I was 19 and my boys never met him. I talk about him a lot and we have photos displayed at home of him so they know who he is. His favourite flowers were daffodils and we have plenty in the garden. I told H who is 3 that granddad loves daffodils. This morning he was outside with daddy and he said 'when is granddad George coming to se my daffodils' hubby didn't know what to say. #justanotherlinky sothisismemrsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12242552571128388685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-76953439261397789502016-04-17T07:15:23.677+01:002016-04-17T07:15:23.677+01:00This is such a tricky one. I know its not quite th...This is such a tricky one. I know its not quite the same, but my niece is obsessed with the family dog, who is getting very very old - slightly dreading how she'll be when we lose the dog. So my Sister in law has already started explaining gently to her about how dogs and people get old and go to heaven and stuff. She asks a lot of questions about it but we've done it in as positive a way as we can. xx #justanotherlinkybeautybabyandmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01596602649984334352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-28854339358792978232016-04-17T03:03:37.808+01:002016-04-17T03:03:37.808+01:00My boy is just over a year old, so I'm thankfu...My boy is just over a year old, so I'm thankful I don't have to deal with the tough stuff like this yet. <br />But, I like to think that when the time comes, my son will be asking the questions because he is ready to hear the truth. In reality, kids can face death at any age. My nephew was just three when my brother (his uncle) died, and many questions followed as he coped. It surprised me how well he understood everything. Kids are smarter than we give them credit! <3 #justanotherlinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13125908800772434921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-75331399085950438402016-04-16T22:53:56.273+01:002016-04-16T22:53:56.273+01:00It such a difficult one isn't it? We're Ch...It such a difficult one isn't it? We're Christians and I think that makes it a bit easier. We told T that a friend of ours went to live at God's house. She seemed quite excited by the prospect haha! #justanotherlinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17880069038270036792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-36788559264639036992016-04-16T21:14:40.741+01:002016-04-16T21:14:40.741+01:00We think honesty is the best policy and it might b...We think honesty is the best policy and it might be a bit much for little minds to process at first but best little ones get a greater understanding. #JustAnotherLinky Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-69276786044950523962016-04-16T20:42:14.034+01:002016-04-16T20:42:14.034+01:00That is tough. I think I will be as honest as I ca...That is tough. I think I will be as honest as I can be, but also as simple as I can be, when the topic comes up. As Sam above says, it is always surprising how well they accept stuff, if explained simply and honestly. Thanks for hosting. #justanotherlinkySomeone's Mum (Danielle)https://www.blogger.com/profile/07601459041389161941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4778157758126536604.post-57377684001317440002016-04-16T19:54:02.042+01:002016-04-16T19:54:02.042+01:00The truth in simple terms for them. They are very ...The truth in simple terms for them. They are very good at understanding X #justanotherlinky thisiswhereitisathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00562590012796034024noreply@blogger.com