I remember the early days of having a new born and well into the first few months when I dreaded bedtime, because bedtime wasn't a good 8 hours sleep, it consisted of being woken every 2 hours or less by a hungry, cranky baby that didn't like to sleep. I led in bed at 9pm trying to go to sleep, as I was so tired but knowing that I would be woken soon.
This carried on well into Finley's first year as he never did sleep well but when he was nearly 2 we seemed to crack it, and thankfully Noah as a newborn was a good sleeper, for a baby. Nights got better and Finley would only wake once a night until we reached the nights which they both would sleep through until 6am. I am sure I was a lot more tired thank before from the extra sleep.
But just recently this whole sleeping malarkey has been a nightmare again. We have good nights and then we have bad nights, and when this happens it makes the bad nights that bit worse as we are so used to sleeping.
I am hoping it is just a 'phase'. Finley is waking up crying wanting a cuddle, a drink, tucking in or a wee. The list goes on. We get up and hug him, pass him his drink (which we always place on the chair next to his bed), tuck his duvet back into the bottom of his bed or take him to the toilet, and do this all without much fuss. As we know that shouting and getting angry won't help anyone at 2am in the morning. But why is this happening? And how do we stop it?
We have tried explaining where his drink is or telling him the night light means he can see when going to the toilet. We have a sticker chart with the promise of a sticker and chocolate if he stays in bed all night. We try to ignore him (I know naughty mummy and daddy) but nothing seems to work on those nights that he gets up.
And the nights he gets up, he is up 3/4 times a night. And then the next night he sleeps through.
So I am right back to dreading going to bed. Of getting into our nice warm bed that used to be my heaven before children. Dreading what the night may bring. But the nights he sleeps through it is lovely to wake up in the morning with a beaming Finley next to the bed knowing he has stayed in bed all night.
All advice welcome. Please tell me it's a 'phase' and we will soon be back to our 7/8 hours of unbroken sleep.
|How we used to get some sleep|