Now I know children of all ages aren't known for their listening skills when it comes to things they don't want to do or things they would rather not hear. I have got used to this over the past 4 years of occasionally having my 'don't do that' or 'please leave that alone' ignored and not listened to, its part and parcel of being a parent I think.
But the last week has been a joke, I mean I actually have to laugh otherwise I would be crying every day!
Finley is a typical 4 year old where he does things he knows he shouldn't and he pushes the boundaries wanting attention and the last week has been no exception. But where he would listen to me 50% of the time and stop whatever he was doing, knowing that if he didn't would result in the naughty step or going to him room, he has not been listening. At all!!
These threats have not worked this week, they have fallen on deaf ears and I am at my wits end on what to do. Because if he aren't bothered about being told off or being put in their room what else can I go?!
For example, he has taken to climbing the stairs, using the banister, on the wrong side of the stairs! So kind of acting like Spiderman, but without the aid of whatever it is that Spiderman would use to help him if he was to fall. Finley would ultimately have the living room floor or the top of the chair if he was lucky and both of these will hurt. Now I am telling him to stop climbing the banisters because I don't want him to hurt himself, but in his eyes I am just being mean and stopping him from having fun. I tell him to stop the first time, which he does, I then leave the room and 2 minutes later he is back up there. And this will go on for over an hour even after the naughty step, being send to his bedroom and the threat of no ice cream after tea. There is just no listening. Its in one ear and out the other and I honestly could cry.
Then there's the other example of being out today and telling him constantly to not run off. Explaining to him that if he can't see mummy, then I cant see him and that he could get lost. He kept running off after being told numerous time not to, so I used the example (harsh maybe) that someone could take him and he may not see mummy again (to him after my nags this may have been a delight) and that still didn't do anything. I was sick of saying 'please hold onto the pram' or 'please get off the floor' or 'please don't run off'. My poor friend was probably sick of the sound of his name by the end of it as I am sure every other word that came out my mouth was 'Finley'.
These are just two examples of things that have happened in the past week. There are many more along the same lines and with him not listening to me, at all, and it's getting me down and I'm questioning my skills as a mother.
I feel like I have a teenager on my hands in the body of a 4 year old. I ask him to not do something and he just looks at me blankly, or worse laughs at me. Now the laughing really gets to me, in a way it upsets me as he thinks its funny to ignore me, but I end up shouting at him that then in turn makes me feel guilty but then just having to tell him off again.
Please tell me I'm not alone because this 'stage' is so bloody hard. It's like talking to a brick wall and I don't know what to do!!
|My monster child with that 'look'|