Friday, 6 May 2016

A Break From Being Mummy

Now I know how incredibly lucky I was to be able to do this and it wouldn't have happened without my amazing Mum and her partner. Last weekend we went away for my husbands 30th Birthday to Amsterdam with some friends of ours and we had the most awesome time, but I did miss the boys an awful lot. But knowing how much fun they were having at home made it that little bit easier.

We headed off on Friday night to stay over at Luton as we had an early flight on Saturday morning. As we were leaving I had just put the boys to bed and Finley had got really upset, which in turn had upset me. I got into the car with tear running down my face as I felt awful for leaving and for having left with him in tears. But after a call from my Mum to say he had settled and gone to sleep, I started to tuck into the pick n mix and felt a whole lot better. They were in safe and loving hands.

We arrived in Amsterdam on Saturday and I felt like a child at Christmas, I was so excited for what we had planned and for what we were about to experience. We walked the streets without the worry of the boys letting go of our hands or seeing something they shouldn't. We sat down for some lunch on Saturday and planned the next few days, it was lovely to be enjoying a glass of wine with lunch and having an adult conversation.

I won't go into everything that we got up to as I want that to be something between my friends and family as it's something quite personal to us but I will say we did nearly everything you should do when you go to Amsterdam when you are trying to relive your youth lol! We had so much fun and so many laughs that I don't think I stopped smiling the whole weekend. It was great to be sharing it with some great friends and it was also lovely to have some time with Mr C, connecting again as a couple, as that is something that is very hard and can get lost when you have children.

I don't feel guilty saying this but I loved our time away from the boys as I think it was something we needed. I love my boys with all that I have and they are my whole world but I was beginning to feel like I was losing my way as me, and I was just Mummy. The trip let me be me, let me giggle at things I wouldn't when with children and let us have conversations that you can't have with children around.

We sat and ate our breakfast, lunch and dinner in peace with great conversation, we got to enjoy a glass of wine with our meals and go out in the evening, drink all we wanted and not worry about the hangover. We got to experience things we wouldn't have done with children in tow and we got to be us again and not just Mummy & Daddy.

Saying that, I was so glad to get home and give the boys the biggest hug in the world. When we walked through the door, Finley had just woken in a sleepy state so I ran up the stairs to see him. He can't remember it as he was half asleep but that feeling of seeing him and then going in a giving Noah a kiss was like the feeling when I first met them when they were born. My heart was full of love and I felt like I was back where I belong.

Yes it was amazing to be Kirsty for a few days, but it was even more amazing to come back and be called Mummy again. Also my husband and I have reconnected and are refreshed to start our next adventures as a family in our new house.
A Cornish Mum

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25 comments:

  1. It's so important to have some time as a couple, if you can. Especially when you know your boys are in safe hands. I am glad you had a lovely time away and enjoyed getting back to see the boys, feeling revived and refreshed. #justanotherlinky

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  2. How lovely, it can be sooo nice to getv away as a couple, I think it does wonders for a relationship. Glad you had a nice time!! #justanotherlinky

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  3. Awww what a lovely post, its so nice to have that connection with our partners and have a bit of time not being parents. Sounds like a fabulous trip, I've heard its a beautiful place and would love to go one day..sans children :) thanks for sharing #Justanotherlinky

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  4. We did something similar this week so I was agreeing with every point reading this! Glad the trip went well and you got to enjoy some kiddy free time x #justanotherlinky

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  5. ah brilliant. it's so tough isn't it - just being yourself and not in mummy mood all the time. I think its really important to try and get some time out if possible. sounds like you had a great time. love Amswterdam! #justanotherlinky

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  6. These times are so important to be able to reconnect as a couple and get back to who you once were. Amsterdam is on my list of places to visit. There are a few things about my youth that may be fun to revisit also! #justanotherlinky

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  7. Sounds like you had a awesome time lovely city thanks for linking to the #binkylinky

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  8. It's the strangest feeling being away from your kids isn't it? You crave it at times when you're with them and yet the minute you're away the missing feeling is incredible. It's great to get away & be you again. I don't do it often enough. Perhaps I should. Great post. #binkylinky

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  9. Couples time is so important. I feel like I've not spent any time with my husband lately despite living in the same house. Roll on our anniversary night away! #justanotherlinky

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  10. Couples time is so important. I feel like I've not spent any time with my husband lately despite living in the same house. Roll on our anniversary night away! #justanotherlinky

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  11. ah sounds like you had a lovely time, it's good to have some time being you rather than just mummy isn't it. Although saying that, I can't remember the last time me and my hubby had time to ourselves like this! xx #justanotherlinky

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  12. I think it's really important to try at least once a year to have that time. It makes you appreciate them more when you come back and revitalises you. What a great place to do it too. Many fond memories of the Dam!!! Mum-WorkRepeat #justanotherlinky

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  13. It makes me sooo nervous leaving the children, to the point I think I'd rather not go, but then we go and it's great and I realise how important it is to have time away to miss each other! #justanotherlinky

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  14. I've not braved leaving Josh longer than a few hours yet but will be away for the night in September so I'll be brave then. So glad you had a lovely time xx #justanotherlinky

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  15. Looks like you had a lovely time. I bet you missed the boys loads! I know id miss the girls. Not sure I could leave them. Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

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  16. I love this! hubby and I managed a child free lunch last week in the sun and it was great to me mr&mrs again and not mummy and daddy! lovely photos xx #justanotherlinky

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  17. Hi Kirsty, it sounds as if you had a fab time and I think it's much worse for the parents than the child when we leave them. It sounds as if you had a fab time and being just Kirsty for a couple of days must have been nice. Hope Mr.C had a great birthday too.

    xx

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  18. It's fab getting a weekend away without the kids isn't it. Of course you miss them but couple time is important too. Glad you had such a good time :)
    #TwinklyTuesday

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  19. What a lovely break you had and you shouldn't feel guilty at all. Your life is your children and it's important to reconnect with your hubby and yourself whenever the opportunity arises. Although saying that, I can imagine the feeling of seeing them after a little break x thanks for hosting!

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  20. So glad you had such a great time, it really does make a difference having a bit of adult time and just getting to be a couple for a while doesn't it? :)

    Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix gorgeous

    Stevie xx

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  21. I am so so jealous right now...feeling v much in need for some couple time! I'd be happy with a day date to nandos ha ha...
    All in good time...
    Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovey xx

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  22. It sounds like a brilliant weekend and well deserved. We had similar weekend away at the beginning of April and it really is nice to just be a couple again - even for a short time. The cuddles when you return home are pretty good too! #coolmumclub

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  23. Glad you had such a great time - sounds amazing! I haven't ever been away from the kids yet, though their dad has a few times. #justanotherlinky

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  24. How lovely! It must have been so nice to get away from it all for a few days. We havent yet got to the stage where we've been able to leave our little one for more than one night yet, but its definitely something that would be nice to do in the future. Glad you had a lovely time, you and couple time is so important every now and then :-) Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays. Emily

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  25. It took us asa couple a long time to get away as a couple, when we did I wondered why I had waited so long? I was always scared to leave them in case they felt abandoned and I would feel like a bad or selfish mother. It took me too long to understand I was't selfish for needing and for wanting ME time and couple time! I am so much happier now I make time for my hubby and I to be alone and for me to head out for dinner with friends etc. Mummy guilt can be difficult to overcome, but now for me there is no looking back and surprise my kids are actually fine too! #mg

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