When it comes to a marriage, well any type of relationship, you have to be a team player. The relationship isn't going to last in my eyes if it is all one sided and your doing it all on your own with onlookers. Yes my husband and I have our arguments about the washing up and the hoovering but when it comes to the big things we stand together.
This last week has been a pretty tough one with my husband having a chest infection, our eldest having tonsillitis and then me coming down with the worst virus I have ever had. Now as I wrote in my post the middle of last week, there really is no stopping when you have children. You have to carry on because they need feeding, looking after and loving just as if you were well, that is what a parent does.
Now normally I would be saying my husband is a terrible ill person, because he will moan about any ailment he has and will google everything, and I mean everything! But this week with us both being poorly we have pulled together. And I would say he has held up the family while I have been mopping about the place. I am terrible at being poorly.
We have our family's but they aren't close enough to call on to watch the boys for us, and the fact that Finley was also poorly we didn't want to pass anything onto them. So we were confined to the 4 walls of our house, just the 4 of us in our little bubble. We did pop out a few times for doctors visits and to get milk, but if anyone had seen us they would have ran a mile, we looked absolutely awful. We spent the whole week in our pyjamas and didn't do much else than move from the sofa to the kitchen and then back again. Energy levels were at an all time low.
But we had each other. As my husband had a chest infection he didn't go into the office and worked from home. If he hadn't done this I do not know what I would have done. I was in no state to look after myself, let alone parent our two boys. So we shared the jobs. I made the boys their food and gave them lots of cuddles while my husband did the washing up and generally did most of the parenting. Yes they ran riot a lot of the time but we coped well I think.
When I went to the doctors on Friday afternoon he recognised me from the day before when I had taken Finley in about his throat and I had said he had also seen my husband about his chest infection. He told me I just had a rotten virus and that I would be feeling rubbish for a few more days yet and was their anyone we could call on? My answer was no as we didn't want to make anyone else ill. When he asked if we had any other children I said we did and when I told him he was 2 he replied with, so he can't do the cooking then! I told him that the husband and I were tag teaming and getting through the best we could.
We pulled together in our hour of need and we made each other hot lemon and honeys when we needed them. These are the times you realise that you are part of a team and I am certainly lucky to be part of a bloody good one!