When did my 3 year old turn into a teenager? The last few weeks on his approach to turning 4 has been testing, to say the least.
Is this what I have in store for me when he is 4? I could handle the threenagers tantrums and demands but the attitude is something else.
He will talk back, ignore me, argue with me and generally be a grumpy bum at times. Don't get me wrong he isn't like this all the time and I enjoy spending time with him. He is still my loving and caring 3 year old but the attitude just takes over sometimes.
The ignoring part I am used to. He has done this since he was about 2 and I think all children do. The selective hearing and just generally not doing as he is told. I literally have to say something 10 times or end up raising my voice for him to listen.
He will argue with me on a daily basis. I don't mean argue as in shouting at each other he will argue with something I say. Like the other day we went to the park, I had said to him what the park was called and he told me it wasn't. He was adamant that the park was called something else. Not sure why but being the stubborn mother that I am we ended in a 'it is' 'no it isn't' stand off. But once we got to the actual play equipment it was all forgotten and he went off and played.
Then there is the instant want. He wants something that second. And if he doesn't get it he will shout and cry. Oh the crying. And there are real tears. They are tears of frustration for not getting what he wants or having to wait. I can handle this at home but when we are in town or in the supermarket I just get what I need to done and get home.
The whole attitude comes with the talking back. Just this morning he asked what I had just said. I told him that I had said 'Your crumpet is just toasting'. He replied with 'no, what did you say before that'. I hadn't said anything. Which I told him and he wouldn't take this as an answer and kept asking 'no before that'.
When I raise my voice he will say to me 'there's no need to tell me off all the time' or 'don't shout at me'. Well this makes me feel like a terrible mother even if it is the first time I have raised my voice that day.
And then there is the 'no more photos mummy!', lol!
He seems to think he is the boss and I am just the lady that looks after him. Sometimes I have to laugh as he is only 3 but my goodness this 'stage' is hard!!
|The grumpy culprit|
|Before he told me 'no more photos mummy'|